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Are we Stunting our Soul Evolution by Repressing Emotions and Pain?

Updated: Apr 24

In our fast-paced world, it's common to ignore our emotions, numbing the pain in the hopes that it will simply disappear. However, by allowing ourselves to feel our emotions fully, even the painful ones, we open the door to true healing and liberation. It may seem counterintuitive, but embracing our emotions and even physical pain rather than quickly numbing them is not only the key to unlocking a deeper sense of well-being, it creates a better quality of life allowing our soul to evolve.

When we repress or numb our emotions, we're essentially bottling up our pain and trauma, burying it deep within ourselves. Like a pressure cooker, the suppressed emotions simmer beneath the surface, pushing their influence on our thoughts, behaviors, and physical health. Over time, this can lead to a variety of issues, from chronic stress and anxiety to depression and physical pain or illness.

On the other hand, when we allow ourselves to feel fully, we create space for healing to occur. By acknowledging and processing our pain, whether it be emotional or physical, we release it's grip on our psyche and allow it to flow through us. This is not to say that feeling our emotions or even physical pain is easy or comfortable – in fact, it can be incredibly challenging and painful at times. But by leaning into the discomfort rather than shying away from it, we empower ourselves to confront our inner pain head-on and emerge stronger on the other side. Moreover, when we numb our pain, we're not just delaying the inevitable – we're also robbing ourselves of the opportunity for growth and transformation.

Pain, while unpleasant, is often a catalyst for change, nudging us out of our comfort zones and propelling us toward greater self-awareness and personal evolution. Pain signifies where trauma is stored in the body. From a shamanic perspective, pain shows us physically what our body/mind/soul are trying to communicate to us. Next time you have a headache, a backache or a pain out of nowhere, before reaching for the tylenol, sit with it. Although unpleasant this opens up a conversation between you and your body. By numbing the pain, we stifle this process, remaining stagnant and stuck in patterns of behavior that no longer serve us and repressing any trauma or illness trying to show itself before it gets worse.

From a spiritual perspective, many traditions teach us that pain is not just a physical or psychological phenomenon, but also a spiritual one – a gateway to deeper levels of awareness and transformation. When we approach our pain from a spiritual perspective, we recognize it as a sacred and meaningful part of our human experience, rather than something to be feared or avoided.

Spirituality invites us to explore the spiritual significance of our pain. To ask ourselves what lessons it may hold for us, what growth opportunities it presents, and how it may be calling us to align more closely with our true selves. In many traditions, pain is seen as a teacher, guiding us toward greater levels of compassion, empathy, and wisdom. By embracing our pain with an open heart and a willingness to learn, we can tap into its transformative potential and emerge from the experience with a deeper sense of spiritual clarity and purpose.

Spirituality invites us to view our pain not as a punishment or a burden, but as a sacred opportunity for growth and transformation. By integrating spiritual wisdom into our healing journey, we can find meaning, purpose, and profound liberation in the midst of even the darkest moments.

So how can we begin to embrace our emotions and cultivate a more authentic relationship with our pain? It starts with mindfulness – with tuning into our inner world and allowing ourselves to experience whatever thoughts and feelings arise without judgment or resistance. Mindfulness can take many forms; journaling, meditation, therapy, or simply carving out quiet moments of reflection in our day-to-day lives.

Additionally, it's important to cultivate self-compassion and self-care practices that honor our emotional needs. This could mean setting boundaries, prioritizing rest and relaxation, or seeking support from loved ones or mental health professionals when needed. By treating ourselves with kindness and compassion, we create a nurturing environment in which healing can flourish.

A spiritual lens on pain offers us a sense of connection and support that can help us navigate even the most challenging aspects of our lives. Whether through prayer, meditation, or community, spiritual practices provide us with a sense of solace and comfort, reminding us that we are never alone. We find comfort where we can surrender to the process of healing, trusting that something bigger is guiding us.

The path to true healing begins with embracing our emotions – the good, the bad, and everything in between. Let's embrace our emotions with open hearts and open minds, trusting that in doing so, we unlock the door to a life of greater authenticity, resilience, and well-being.

If you want to learn more about how our body stores trauma as pain, I recommend the books The Body Keeps the Score, and Healing Back Pain. You will be amazed.



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